Mrs A two days ago took my wallet away from me. She handed me some cash and said when you have spent that come to me and we will talk. I was somewhat dumbfounded. It happened before bed. We had friends over and I had drank some. So I just went to sleep.
The next day I felt horrible inside. I felt like I had done something major wrong. I wondered if Mrs A thinks I was a burden or problem in our life related to our finances. I was never given an answer to what I was supposed to learn or what I had done wrong.
I felt sad inside. I withdrew into my own head. Mrs A seemed irked at me for that. I was irked at her for what had happened.
We have talked and I still do not have my wallet. There are things she hopes I see and understand while I am put on an allowance. It has been hard for me. Mrs A left my wallet by my sink wrapped in a copy of our contract. It was her passive way of controlling me. I really wanted to keep it but I did not I gave it to her and am gonna try to let this go and learn what I need to learn.
An interesting development. Your Mistress has definitely consolidated her power. In for a penny in for a pound. :-)
ReplyDeleteI'd be very careful with finances. That's where you can really get taken advantage of and be left with no way to leave the relationship.
ReplyDeleteYour contract provides the following: "Section 3: Renewal and Renegotiation:
This contract will be formally renegotiated and renewed each year on our wedding anniversary. At any time, either party may initiate a conversation to void or renegotiate this contract."
I would definitely exercise your option to renegotiate as it relates to finances.